Yesterday, when I blogged a “todays outfit”, I got a rude comment on my body, and I thought I wanted to share it with you and put it up for discussion.. This is the comment:
My first thought, when I read this comment, was to actually just laugh at it. First of all.. Brave? Why would I have to be brave? I have learned to live with the body I have and the curves I have. I can’t change my curves and what I look like – This is the body I have to live with for my entire life.. How would my life be if I had to hide myself, just because somebody thinks I don’t have a nice body? You know, people are different.. I know, there are people out there who actually do think I have a nice body. Your ugly, might be somebody elses beautiful.. Your beautiful, might be somebody elses ugly. People have different taste and beautiful comes in all shapes and sizes. It comes in size 0 and in size 12. In size XS or size XXL. You get the point, right?
Also, some other people would have maybe been very sad, seeing this comment. You never know what plans people have for their day.. You never know if the girl you just called fat, had a really bad day, and fought through her life, trying to be the skinny girl because society tells her having curves is wrong. You never know if the girl you just called a stupid bimbo, actually sit at home, working her ass off trying to get good grades in school. You don’t know peoples personal life. I’m not the one being ugly here and neither is everybody else you call ugly – Society and its expectations is the ugly thing here. We were all born in our own way, and I like not being like everybody else! Born to be brave!
What is your opinion on this, gorgeous readers? I’d really like to hear!
THIS <3
Couldn't have said it better myself!
True XD
But it's not healthy for a 18 year old to be that fat.It's not even about beauty.
And of course you can do something about it,you can lose weight.
the thing is being overweight like you, there's always something to be done, right? Its not like some terminal illness thats gonna be ur fate forever. going to gym, eating healthy ect. it feels like all fat people use the "baby i was born this way love my beautiful curves im imperfect even if im obese" thing as a comeback.
u really feel beautiful in ur body? if not just lose some weight, u'll feel more confident and not get so worked up over a insignificant anon comment!
Ok,huge post ahead,just a warning xD
First of all,this is not about curves.You are not curvy,you have extra fat on you,extra weight.It's significantly different.
Moving on,of course you can change the way you look like.You are so young after all,you can work out and lose weight and have a more normal and healthy body.It's all up to you,really.You were not born this way,you let yourself end up this way.
You do not have to live with that body for your entire life,you can easily change it.This is not about someone telling you that you're too pale or that you have a big nose.You cannot change these things naturally but you can change your body without plastic surgery.
So,I find it a little more than mildly annoying when you claim that you can't change yourself.This is so pessimistic of you.
Then,you are talking about hiding yourself.Nobody asked you to do that but can you honestly tell me that it has been so hot in Denmark today that you had to wear shorts? Like did you really need to put on an outfit that doesn't flatter your body type at all?
It's ok if it's summer and you're about to go to the beach or if it's hot and you're suffocating but seriously,this outfit was like a statement,a fashion one.You decided to wear something that doesn't fit your body type,so it's not about hiding yourself,you just wanted to expose your arms and thighs.You went for it,nobody said you should hide your body but you can always wear outfits that match your body type.Simple as that.
Next,you're talking about how beauty is in the eye of the beholder and how it's subjective.Ok,fair enough,but I highly doubt that anyone would think that someone who is overweight has a nice body.Maybe someone would think that you look nice,despite your body,but an obese and fat body can never look nice and,more importantly,it can never look healthy.
It's hard to believe that you're raving about beauty for so many lines but you neglect to mention the factor of health.Being overweight is in no way healthy,so there is nothing subjective about that one here.This is not about people being different.Eye color,hair color,height,skin tone,features,all of these are subjective,but being overweight isn't.Being a size XXL is dangerous for someones health.If you love your body,you want it to be healthy.
About the whole ''you don't know how someones life is and how mean comments can hurt him''.True,but then again when someone is doing personal blogging is exposing himself and his life in the public eye,right? I mean you posted pictures of the outfit of your day and you were waiting for people to see it and comment on it.It's not realistic to expect only positive comments,since this is not how real life is.When you,or anyone else,go out wearing an outfit,people are gonna judge you,comment on it.Some will like it,some will hate it,but everyone will judge for you it and you can't expect only positive opinions,right? This is why I don't agree with the whole ''if you don't have anything nice to write,then not write at all''.This is not how the world works,you should know that already.
Last but not least,about society.
You are not curvy.I agree that being curvy is totally fine,not everyone has to be skinny to be considered beautiful.But in your case is about extra unhealhty weight.So it's not about society having an unhealthy fixation on being skinny.This is about you.
Sorry for the long post and all the ranting btw.
They didn't say you're ugly,they said you're fat ;p
It's how it's said, I think.
But in a way, I think all of us can do something to our body, so it's more healthy.
But I agree with you, because in society, it's like.. You have to be skinny to be beautiful. But also some people are just saying that you have to lose weight because it's healthy.
Even though everyone today thinks that you as a completely normal person should lose 302948029348 pounds and everyone to look like they were a fucking celeb or something, even though they are just regular students in a regular city it doesn't mean you personally have to bend over and just do it. It may be healthy to lose a few here and there, but come on, if someone did that, people would still talk about something imperfect. so screw that weird mindfuck everyone keeps being obsessed about. I believe being so focused and obsessed about these health-size-zero-scary-skinny is completely as unhealthy as being overweight. If you enjoy the person you are, and the person you would like to represent, that is fine. I know so many cool people who are not that stupid size-skin-and-bones. come on. there is more in life. i like your personality and i like your look. and you seem pretty smart. so fuck the people.
Anna, just came by your blog. saw something about muffins. I dig that haha.
Well,being very skinny is as unhealthy as being obese,well said.
That doesn't mean though that it's ok to be either one of them.You can just calculate your ideal weight and try to reach this goal.
Nu skriver jeg lige på dansk, fordi mit engelsk er ikke så godt. Men du er altså ikke fed, Jeanettte!Ja, du har lidt ekstra på siderne og det er der en del der har.
Og du kan sagtens være sund, selvom du har ekstra på siderne. Tag et kig i det nye Woman, der er en artikel om en tynd, mellem og tyk pige, hvor de finder ud af hvem der er sundest. Og hende den tykke ligger i midten af det. Så de burde bare lukke røven.
Dit outfit klædte dig ikke så godt, men du har altså ikke en grim krop. Du er en kvinde/pige med ekstra på siderne. Du er ikke FED! 🙂
Oh wow, those comments. That's what the fashion industry has done to the world, huh.
Obviosuly people believe that only size 0's are beautiful. Yes, a walking skeleton is what we all want, right? Of course it is. Seriously, some of these people needs a reality check. Because a size 0 is not reality. It's called photoshop.
Several of you people, who commented, said it EASY to lose weight. Wow, that's very… optimistic of you, but there are some of us who has to be realistic, and losing weight is in no way easy.
"You were born this way" It's true. Some people can eat a shitload of food, and still be a size 0, and some people just have to look at something unhealthy, and they'll gain weight. So just because people have different bodytypes does than mean they have to be treated differently? I don't think so. I think you're all being extremely close minded, and rude. Get a reality check.
I like how one of the (extremely brain dead) comments comes from a girl/boy who hides behind the same nickname as the former greatest blogger in Norway.
Ridiculous. At least stand by your own name.
Back to topic. Jeanette, you are not fat, and I can see that, and I know it, because I have been overweight (not obese) myself when I was from age 6-12. And it took me 6 years to lose the weight (I didn't have that much fat, but it was a hard and slow process, because I didn't have a diet and I didn't exercise to lose weight), so god damn people who say it is easy to lose weight, fuck off, it is certainly not!!! If you don't like exercising 'till you can't breathe, and you don't want to live on carrots every day, then it is not easy!
I am now (age 17) completely normal weighing, but I know how to see when someone is fat, and you are not. I have to think about what I eat EVERY SINGLE DAY, just to keep my weight normal, and it is not easy, so people here should SHUT THEIR MOUTH, because they don't know anything about your private life and the things you are struggling with (even if it is not weight. Personally issues are (mostly) not just thrown out on a blog, so people should be aware of what they are saying!)
Sorry my bad english 🙂
Guys, how do you know what I eat? Do you know that every day, I try to eat as healthy as possible? Do you know that I eat salad every day, and try to stay off everything that has sugar in it? No, you don't. PEOPLE ARE DIFFERENT. You don't know that I actually do struggle with losing a few pounds here and there, and I have for several years.. But I'm not FAT. Yes, I'm overweight, BUT NOT FAT. There's a difference. As Mia Malene said, some people can eat candy and still stay a size 0! Other people just have to fucking look at the candy and you'll gain weight.. Not all people are the same, or have the same bodytypes.
And second; I didn't get worked up over the comment, I just wanted to state my opinion about it. This is my blog, I have the rights to state my opinions on it.
people are so fucking vile.
Well I am not a famous blogger from Norway but there are many people in this world with my name,right? xD
Nobody talked about beauty.Being thin is not necessary to look pretty but it is to make sure that you are and gonna be healthy.Being overweight is not.And there is a huge difference between being a size 0 and being overweight.You can have a normal weight.
Carro, it was not you I was talking about 🙂
BTW, I forgot saying something in the other comment I posted; I'm happy there are people in here agreeing with me too 🙂 Makes me really happy to see <3
People are crazy. Jeanette, baby girl you're not fat at all! You're not unhealthy and honestly you look beautiful just the way you look now! – I completely agree with you and Mia Malene, it's much more beautiful to have a little extra on the side compared to being a walking skeleton!
How rude it is to come here and tell her to lose weight. Don't just assume she wants to. I mean she looks a lot healthier than most skinny people do. Besides; Telling her to lose weight is not only rude, it's dumb too. LOOK AT HER!! She's gorgeous!! Are you blind?! I'd wish I had her body for crying out loud!!
Baby, you were born to look this way, don't change <3
Okay okay, only narrow minded people look at people who are carrying an extra few pounds and think 'omg they're so fat, all they do is eat bad food and eat a lot' but you know what? Medical conditions actually prevent people losing weight. Not that narrow minded people actually have the brain cells to think about that and still go ahead and hurt peoples feelings. How does that person leaving that vile comment even know about what the person might be suffering from? They don't, so they don't have the right to go around telling people they look fat or ugly. Just shows what a vile person they are inside.
Aimee Whitney: Couldn't agree more!
Ok then,sorry Cecilie.But still,could be someone else named this way xD
I know what you mean cause I have been struggling myself with extra weight and still haven't made it down to my ideal one and congrats for making it! It's not easy at all,tell me about it,but it's worth it.Not only because we are more healthy this way but also more pretty and we love ourselves and our bodies more!
Worth a try 🙂
Omg why is people in here so rude?!
Jeanette is not fat at all. She is probably a size 38/M, which I personally find pretty normal?
I'm actually kind of shocked about people's reactions..
Jeanette ! YOU ARE Awsome !!
Well,she doesn't seem like a Medium in any way but the point is,why someone who needs to lose some weight,myself included,would wear an outfit like that? :S
There are nice clothes who match certain bodytypes way better.
Btw these cupcakes look delicious but I am pretty sure they are full of calories :/
Wow,lots of comments D:
A blog for inspiration:
http://willtobeskinny.tumblr.com/
It's not mine so I am not promoting it here.
"why someone who needs to lose some weight,myself included,would wear an outfit like that?"
Why would someone write lots of rude comments, but be too much of a pussy to write his/her name?
Sorry to ask,but why is the name thing a big deal? Someone could just come up with a random name XD
After all it's part of the whole commenting on a blog thing,many people are anonymous.
I think we shall take a look at the comments themselves instead of concentrating on the who is writing his name thing.
I just think it's lame that people can make comments like that but they can't even stand up for themselves.
Fair enough but there are also people here making positive comments anonymously but you don't seem to mind. It's like too convenient to ignore some comments just before there are no names provided.Plus there is probably more than one anonymous user.
I also noticed people making comments with their name but still no one bothered to even consider replying to them.
No matter what I think it's ridiculous when people wont even write their own names – negative comments or not.
Ok xD
I like how you guys choose to ignore the fact that there is a big difference between XXS and XXL.
Everytime someone calls a girl overweight,people tend to play the sceleton card,aka ''do you want us all to look like sceletons''?
Well no,but still,there is a huge difference between being skinny and being overweight.
I don't think that people can allow their self to call anyone skinny or fat – unless they know the BMI of the mentioned person.
When you're fat or obese or skinny, you should really think about what you're doing to your body and health, and what you're doing to stay that way.
As mia malene says, somebody can eat shitloads of food when others cant – it's all about the metabolism. If you exercise enough, you'll be able to get your metabolism to work fast, and therefore you'll be able to eat what you want – but still think about what you're putting in your mouth. Just as unhealthy it is to på fat, it is just as unhealthy to be skinny. If your body doesn't get the nutrition it needs it doesnt matter wether you're obese or skinny.
And for Jeanette's outfit i think that she is kind to her bodytype! it could have been so much worse: she could not have chosen not to wear tights and also have chosen to wear af too tight tanktop. It is very FEW people that are able to wear only shorts and tight clothes!, so i think jeannette made a good choice of wearing a t-shirt, tights and shorts.
Poor Bill XD First thing that came to my mind x)